Before you move into making love, just sit silently together for fifteen minutes holding each other’s hands crosswise…

“Sit in darkness or in a very dim light and feel each other. Get in tune. The way to do that is to breathe together. When you exhale, the other exhales; when you inhale, the other inhales. Within two to three minutes you can get into it. Breathe as if you are one organism – not two bodies but one. And look into each other’s eyes, not with an aggressive look but very softly.

“Take time to enjoy each other. Play with each other’s bodies. Don’t move into lovemaking unless the moment arises by itself. Not that you make love, but suddenly you find yourself making love. Wait for that. If it does not come, there is no need to force it. It is good: go to sleep, no need to make love. Wait for that moment for one or two or three days. It will come one day.

And when that moment comes, love will go very deep. It will be a very, very silent, oceanic feeling. But wait for that moment; don’t force it.

“Love is something which has to be done like meditation. It is something that has to be cherished and tasted very slowly so that your being is deeply suffused with it and it becomes such an overwhelming experience that you are no longer there. It is not that you are making love, you are love. Love becomes a bigger energy around you. It transcends you both; you are both lost in it. But for that you will have to wait.

“Wait for the moment and soon you will have the knack of it. Let the energy accumulate and let it happen on its own. By and by you will become aware when the moment arises. You will start seeing the symptoms of it, the prelude, and then there will be no difficulty.”

Osho, The Cypress in the Courtyard, Talk #3

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